I heard something really disturbing. Disclaimer: it’s not the sexual preference that disturbs me, it’s the potential life-shattering deception that bothers me.
A girl I know is planning her wedding. The boy she’s marrying is, apparently, confirmed, visually and..er..physically gay as the day is long. My best friend’s cousin is out and proud, and face-to-face recognized this guy as someone he met in a gay chatroom, met, and had sex with. When closeted met outed in public with witnesses, closeted had a shocked look on his face and avoided eye contact, conversation, etc. Outed named closeted place of employment, name, fiancee’s name, etc. He did know this guy, and intimately. So it sounds to me like way more than a rumor. God, I hope not.
My best friend’s opinion is that this is absolutely none of my business, and she’s probably totally right. I just hope that the bride to be somehow knows about this and is okay with it. My heart breaks to think of her finding out for the first time after the wedding, which is coming up soon. My friend says that it will be okay, (this cracks me up), he’ll be “faithful” to her because he’s secretly gay! Sleeping with men on the down low is hardly being faithful to your wife. If you’re fucking someone else, it’s not faithful, regardless of whether you’re crossing gender and sexual orientation lines in the process. I’m sure I have no excuse to bring up this subject with the bride, I’m just not that close of a friend to her. But I did give suggestions on where she should get her cake, flowers, etc. It’s just so tempting. I would totally hate myself if they get divorced in a few years or whenever and she doesn’t really want to tell anyone why, you know? I hope she knows, and she’s cool with marrying a gay (or at least actively bisexual) man. Is that the most preposterous sentence ever?